4 Magic Questions

QUESTION: I've stumbled across a couple of references to the "four magic questions" and haven't been able to find them online or in the archives. Does anybody know what they are?

Here they are. Original author unknown.

1. Imagine yourself in a white room everything is white — wall, ceiling, floor. Describe your experience.

2. What is your favorite color… describe it , what feeling does it have?
3. What is your favorite animal… Why? Describe it.
4. Imagine yourself near a large body of water… describe your experience? What do you do?

1. That is your perception of death and dying.

2. That is how you see yourself with these qualities that you answered to the question
3. (this one is very funny and always gets them a little blushed) this is how people see you with those qualities.
4. That is your view of sex, with the water etc. Now obviously you have to probe a little deeper when asking the questions so you can guide them into giving you the answers with enough depth to analyze it and give them a core in-depth answer.

Now because the first few questions are very fluffy and general it's easy to get it right and get them amazed at how accurate the answers are so by the time you get onto the sex one (no. 4), you have got a huge rapport.

They feel like you know them an a deeper level and the change in physiology, etc. is huge. So when you get to question 4 because you have been right for the last pacing statements about who they are as a person on a deep level and is reframed that they may be surprised and find out things about themselves that they didn't know themselves.

This opens the gate to be able to fill this last statement with leading assumptions instead of pacing and they will totally agree, and obviously this is where you take the opportunity to lay it on thick about their sexual belongings, desires, etc.

1. Imagine yourself in a white room. Everything is white — wall, ceiling, floor. Describe your experience.

   Her: Peace, calm, relaxed

2. What is you favorite color ..describe it. What feeling does it have.

   Her: Red, fiery, stands out, passionate

3. What is your favorite animal.. Why? Describe it.

   Her: Dolphin is smart, free, fun, cute.

4. Imagine yourself near a large body of water .. describe your experience?

   Her: What do you do? I jump in and swim

1. That is your perception of death and dying you feel at peace you feel calm & relaxed.

2. That is how you see yourself: passionate, fiery, you feel you stand out in the crowd.
3. People see you as free, smart cute, fun.
4. That is you view of sex, love, excitement, etc. When you are with that certain guy and you just know deep inside that this person knows you at a deeper and a much more intimate level.

   You just find yourself wanting to just let go to all the passion and excitement and the deep connection you can experience. Now, WITH ME, when I answered the questions I felt the same way….

Important: How you set this up makes all the difference. Take a look at the structure of the game and see if you can extract it and use it for a "new" game. You can get a lot of mileage out of it.