A game catalyst: nonverbal openers

I have been doing this for some time now and it has gotten me some incredible success. Thought I'd share…

Nonverbal openers are like a catapult that allow you to skip over initial (and often unnecessary) stages of an interaction. I like them for 3 reasons…

Effectiveness: They are useful for achieving comfort and attraction simultaneously and instantly
Powerful: They cause your interactions to be more powerful because you can move forward exponentially faster
Self-amusing: They entertain yourself and thus put you and her into a positive state before even speaking

In terms of actual results in your dating life, utilizing nonverbal openers when paired with solid game offers tangible and efficient results.

Ok, now onto it.

What is a Catalyst?

Definition:
1. Chemistry. a substance that causes or accelerates a chemical reaction
2. something that causes activity between two or more persons or forces
3. a person or thing that precipitates an event or change
4. a person whose talk, enthusiasm, or energy causes others to be more friendly, enthusiastic, or energetic.

Check.

Active Eye Contact (a pre-requisite)

Eye contact is inherent to nonverbal openers. If you can't make eye contact with a hottie you are attracted to, this will not work for you because she actually has to SEE you. I have to say first off that eye contact is the most under-utilized and under-appreciated aspect of being successful with women in the way it is currently being taught. Ultimately, active eye contact is what you should strive for, meaning that when you find a woman attractive you purposely look her dead in the eye before the approach, instinctively. However, a good start is to simply make more active eye contact throughout your day and when you are out socializing, and MOST importantly holding that eye contact. There was time when I was too shy to hold eye contact with a girl I was attracted to, or even just other people in general, and when I tried to I felt anxious for reasons I did not understand. I attempted to do the most logical thing to address this issue, "figure out" these reasons, and understand them as best as possible, and while this did keep me busy doing what I thought was "working on my game", unfortunately it did not result in any tangible progress. Reasons and excessive analysis are largely unimportant when compared to solutions, and the solution in this case was repetition. Eye contact is the most under-utilized and under-appreciated because it is the easiest to implement (and I say this knowing that implementation is the most difficult area to address) into your life and requires absolutely nothing more than you and the people you would normally encounter throughout your day without doing anything extra. If you want to see the effects of this, you can start by adopting the eye contact rule: WHENEVER your eyes meet a hottie, no matter where she is, or where you are, you open her, no exceptions. I do not recommend anything I have not tried myself, and this has been one of the most fun things I have ever tried. I have had to do things like suddenly stop my car, and run across multiple lanes of moving traffic just to get to the girl I wanted. So, now that I have said that utilizing active eye contact as a technique for meeting women is one of the simplest and most effective and powerful tools there is, let me get to the goods.

Nonverbal openers:

There is a multitude of different options for opening nonverbally, buy all have a common element "motion".

The motion has two parts: facial expression and gesture. Both can be used together or separately.

Here are a few suggestions:

Facial expressions:
-the overexcited smile
-the exaggerated wink
-shocked and surprised

Gestures:
-Handshake: self-explanatory.
-Stick your tongue out: ditto.
-Cheers: Toast glasses.
-Start Trek: Make the start trek sign with your hand and mouth the words "I come in peace". Always a classic.
-The Gay Wave: Extend your arm over your head and wave at her while flamboyantly mouthing the words "heeeeey"
-The Mere: Point at her excitedly for a few moments and then gesture a come hither motion, while mouthing the word "mere"
-The Tooth Brush: Make a motion as if you are brushing your teeth. This can be turned into a dance as well.
-Eating Out: Put your two fingers to your mouth in a v shape and stick out your tongue.

Facial expressions are key, ideally you should use them in some form with whatever gesture you chose, fittingly. Be loud, and fully expressive.

The most awesome thing with this is every element is completely customizable to your own unique personality. Make your gestures as mundane or perverse as you'd like, (with the understanding that, more absurd = more powerful). There is only 1 rule: it MUST amuse you.

The second part of nonverbal openers is speech. Yes, you must actually open your mouth and speak to your hottie of desire. Fortunately, if you have done part one correctly, you will already be in state, so part will be easy. Thing is, even if you aren't already feeling good IT DOESN'T MATTER. The fact that you have already started the interaction will give you momentum, plus she knows it is coming which takes the anxiety off the table in large part. If you are a novice (or not), you can start with "Hi, I'm xxx". Beginning the interaction with the focus on you in this way is ideal as it allows you to direct things to the most productive place possible.

Other suggestions:

"I saw you looking at me"
"Busted"
"You were eye fucking me, I totally caught you"
"I promise, I'm as stupid as I look"

The "how"
Do not get caught up trying to over-think these. Pick one and try it out, then repeat. If you adopt the eye contact rule, you will find that the "how" will quickly become largely unimportant, as you are already committed to the approach and there is not a questions of "if". (See "give me the manuel" example in Blueprint Decoded DVDs). Most of the greatest success I've experienced with this technique have come about completely improv style. One time I saw a hottie walk past me when I was entering a pizza place near my house, we made eye contact and I instinctively opened her with something of which I don't remember–what I do remember is that it amused me. I proceeded to buy a slice of pizza and while I did, she left. On my way out, I walked towards the Subway next door and saw her in the window eating. I ran up to the glass, pointed at her sandwich, and then pointed to my mouth, then went inside, and ran up to her with my mouth open, at which point she proceeded to put her sandwich in my mouth to take a bite. I remember thinking about how great this was going if she was sharing her food with me before we even had conversation. Turned out she lived just a few minutes from me and that night, I picked her up, drove her back to my place and gave her the tour. Thanks nonverbal openers!